I did a brief talk recently on the concept of life is what you make it, if you haven't already check it out!
Sounds easy enough right? Yet the reality is it’s not as easy as it sounds! There is so much going on in the subconscious, thoughts, beliefs that we aren’t aware of. Habits and ways of being that are deeply ingrained that take work to let go of.
So what does that mean? And how do we recognize these? And most importantly how do we let go of them?
Now, not that it’s a terrible struggle to get there, but it takes time, willingness, patience, and shitloads of self Love. Always. Always. Always. Not matter what you do, how you do it, this attitude of self Love will make every step of the way easier, and is essential in living a satisfied happy life; an extremely valuable (learned) skill.
So what are we talking about? We are talking about all these subconscious beliefs; some inherited from our parents, some reactions we’ve developed to cope with life easier, habits that we are often totally unaware of. Beliefs that stand in our way of becoming the best fullest version of ourselves. Before we can move forward into being our best version, into manifesting our dreams in reality; we must recognize these so that we can do whatever it is we need to do to come to terms with them and let gooooo and let flow!
Patience patience patience. All is coming. Trust the process, because change isn’t always obvious as it’s happening, yet I promise you that doesn’t mean nothing is happening!
So how do we become aware of the subconscious?
Self awareness is an extremely useful tool, a learned habit, with immense benefits.
We have so many ideas about who we are that this can stand in the way of us seeing who we actually are in reality. We need to learn to recognize these beliefs, these patterns, these thoughts, so that we can let go! So the we can grow! So that we can BE the fullest version of ourselves!
There are so many practices that take us there. Mindfulness, meditation, yoga, psychedelic psychotherapy, plant medicine,.. Yet none of these practices on their own will get us there, they take our cooperation, and our willingness to do the work. The work isn’t hard either, it’s not a chore, especially if it means becoming the fullest version of yourself. It isn’t always easy, and sometimes it makes no sense; but I promise you it is worth it!
We need to recognize who we already are before we can become we need to be.
So yes. Practice, practice, practice, all is coming!
Find a practice that works for you, play with a few different ones, find a teacher you can relate to; and if at first you don’t like it or it doesn’t work, give it a few shots before giving up. Be brave. Try something new, step out of your comfort zone, for that is where growth happens. If we continue to do what we’ve always done in the same ways we always have, how on earth can we expect to grow? (At any significant rate anyway.)
Find a practice that encourages you to look at yourself, to reveal yourself, to see yourself more clearly; and most importantly that overall you enjoy and isn’t a burden.
Going on retreat can be a great kickstarter for any process, as you’re really immersed, and the benefits become really evident as you are so focused. Sharing the journey with others can also help you realize that we’re all going through similar versions of the same things! Yet don’t be surprised if it isn’t exactly the same when you go home. On retreat you’re in a protected environment, there is so much possibility for growth, your focus is completely on your own development. That doesn’t mean it isn’t valid or useful, you get to experience what is possible; and the possibilities are infinite from there.
So go ahead. Be brave. Give it a shot! We only live once ;)
Love Love Love!