At the end of the day the message is Love.
Love thyself first and foremost, and in turn this shall reflect itself into every aspect of your life. At the very core of all our relationships, is our relationship with ourself.
So what is this Love?
It’s an understanding, a showing of compassion, of accepting and embracing, of allowing. A connection. It’s living at ease with ourselves, allowing ourselves to be fully and freely. Beyond imposing ideas of who we ought to be. Beyond judging ourselves.
Such a small word, yet encompassing so much; and then again so simple. Yet so often it is not something we are taught, it is something we learn, and the journey, could be neverending.
For we are human, we experience a whole array of emotions, and we have so many deeply engrained habits of reacting. That unlearning can be quite a process, yet one that anyone can undergo.
It can be quite a surprise to realize how disconnected we can be from ourself. How critical. How harsh. How berating.
To feel that deep intimacy with ones self is where it all begins.
Yet how to get there? It’s a journey into ones self, a returning home. Sometimes its oh so painful as we uncover deeper and deeper layers of ourselves; revealing piece by piece. Sometimes we feel so exposed, so vulnerable, as if we’re being torn apart from the inside out. While other times it can be ecstatic, feeling that deep deep connection, that immersion in being, in experience. For that is life; there is dark and there is light, yet they coexist together. We can disconnect and go to that middle place, that limbo land we’re we might feel mild happiness or mild sadness, where we numb ourselves a little bit yet deep down there’s something that really doesn’t not feel right, that yearning that we just cant quite put our finger on it, yet it gnaws at us slowly, gradually, becoming bigger and bigger. Sometimes so big causing physical or mental disease.
And that’s the point, we have all these different aspects to ourselves: the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual. Call it spiritual, or just call it that deep sense of knowing, that understanding, that connection, that purpose, that belonging, that peace, that ease. Any unbalance in one area, will result in unbalance in other areas; while also balance in one area can also cause balance in other areas. We can affect the mental by affecting the physical; we can affect the emotional by affecting the spiritual, and so on.
Of course we are human and we can’t always be in balance. Everything is always changing, everything is moving, things are shifting, so the balance will constantly be in flux. So constant happiness in the more traditional sense is impossible. Smiling, laughing, being merry is unsustainable 24/7; yet we can come to be at more ease with the fluctuations. We can learn to become more aware of our inner workings so as to intelligently influence our BEingness for the most positive outcomes.
It is always a matter of trial and error; for it is only through direct experience that we can truly embody that knowledge into wisdom. That deep inner knowing. For it is the most sustainable, and the most influential when how we live comes from that deep place of inner knowing.
And we won’t always get it right, we have to experiment with so many variables that a whole variety of outcomes will come about. Yet when we truly allow ourselves to experience all of it; the good and the bad; then we can really learn; and then we can truly learn to act in the most truly beneficial and nurturing way so that we can be the best versions of ourselves.
And again; it is very unlikely to always be a smooth ride; there is always more to learn, deeper layers to uncover; about ourselves and humanity. Yet the overall experience, the overall satisfaction of knowing you are doing/being the very best you can, really leaves that deep deep overall satisfaction with life.